this post is specially dedicated to galz like me whu have litle talent or inclination to date any guy....n are feminist...so only thing left is to arrange urvery own "arrange marraige"nope i not in marriagable age yet but u know im quite planned so i have planned things well in advance.....so here we go arranging our great indian arrange marriage ....but in zara hatke style.....not like the typical chauvinistic boring usual "arrange marriage"in which bride comes holding tray filled wid eatables...and guy's parents are ready to pounce over girl...n bombared her wid silly questions.....

first step here is dont leave everything to ur parents....no im not telling u to disrespect ur parent's view but more input should be from your side....dont  meet guy and his family straight in a formal meeting arranged by your parents...instead insist on meeting him first in a casual  meeting if hes found worthwhile then only go in for meeting his family...while meeting his family for god sake dont go in for those "kanjivarams"...this gives impression to ur prospective in-laws ur parwati-tulsi types...though ur traditional but u cant be clad in saree 24*7(nothing against saree's)...for  a change u can turn up in a nice formal top n jeans u can also opt for nice but not so conservative salwaar-suit....even noodles strap salwar-suit is nt too loud these days.....this is enough to give ur prospective inlaws glimpse of ur life style...no,dont even think for turning up in ur sleeping shorts...even if u dont wannna enter into alliance just a polite  "no"would work

second,dont just settle down for any gauddy guy...because ur biological clock is ticking...by the time most of us independent women think of settling down its already 29...by now u would be peterified of attending your friend's and colleagues wedding and 1st,2nd,3rd,4th anniversary....n frustated by the lack of  sex life(in case ur my kind whu would wanna wait till getting married before surrending everything).....

traditional doesnt means suppressed....voice ur opinion u have equal right to demand virginity and chastity as guys have....

dont go blindly for looks....looks can be misleading..there is a famous sayin "never judge a book by its cover"....guy can be really goodlooking but narrow minded...n if u go in for average looking guy ul be d"centre of attraction"whenever u go out with him....and studies have shown average guys are less-prone to "infidelity"

i know money is d important factor while hunting groom so is status after all whu doesnt want to be              "MRS CEO"....   but being" socially aware n responible".... is equally important.....if ur from those breed of     "GEN  Y" ....... then asking him whether hes involved with "NGO " or would  like to go for community sevice can be good option for making sure hes socially responisble......if ur feminist kind like me then u can say that ur parents will also stay wid u.no we r not telling that he should become "ghar jamai"instead u both can buy a house together (after all y u n he's earning gr8 package?)in which ur mom n dad,his mum n dad,u ,he,children,cockroaches,lizards,dogs ,cats every one can stay together.....siblings can buy their own house.....u wuld be thinking im going ballistic but 5 years down the line it wont be a big deal....n guys we love our parents as much as u do..y do only we have to sacrifice everything??sorry we wont leave our everything n come to ur place wid just a bag....vr as independent as ur .....

n girlz  while meeting him first time.....plz dont dont ask too intruding questions.....chillax leave something for talking over phone or  for meeting next time.....

n remember never loose hope if 1st,2nd,3rd 4th guy doesnt filt into ur criteria....we have whooping bilion plus population.....n even d sex- ratio has declined rapidly.so it means there is no dearth of choices....guys will be more than  willing to surrender to ur demands..........